Whether to speak your mind or not is one of the biggest debates in socialisation history. Some say it’s a great idea, while others say that it only sounds good, and in reality, serves no good. In fact, it lands you in trouble, because this world isn’t a place where you can actually say what’s on your mind.
Classic example being India where the most harmless comment, COMMENT, can lead to ‘intolerance’ and ‘outrage’. But personally, speaking your mind has several advantages – the most important being – it gives you peace of mind. Not convinced? These 13 points will help.
1. Every time your roommate leaves the dishes dirty, remind her that it’s her responsibility as well.
You’ll crib and end up doing it yourself. Later, you’ll crib to your parents and it will become a complete circle. What’s the point? A little reminder will not hurt her. Plus, she’ll know there’s no getting away.
2. At a public place or at a restaurant, if you are feeling uncomfortable about someone who won’t stop smoking, stand up and tell them that it’s not okay.
Firstly, inform them that it’s against the law. Secondly, tell them that it’s not good for your health, and you don’t want to involuntarily become a passive smoker.
3. If your friend is fighting too much with her parents unnecessarily, tell her to take a chill pill. Or pour some cold water on her!
4. If your boyfriend won’t stop venting his work-related frustration on you, just stop taking his calls.
Make him ask you why. And when he does, tell him exactly what the problem is. You don’t throw your troubles at him, so why should he?
5. When mom and dad force you to meet perspective brides, tell them honestly that you are not ready yet.
Don’t keep them hanging. Just tell them. They’ll probably get you better and will spend more time looking for the perfect bride for you.
6. If your girlfriend is looking fat in the dress she loves, tell her right away.
She’ll cry, even hate you. But she’ll go and change the dress. Later, when the pictures from the party are out, she’ll give you a big thank you hug.
7. If you are having work-related trouble, talk to your boss about it.
Your manager is supposed to help you out and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Deadlines, client problems or whatever it is, just go talk to him. If nothing else, you’ll end up feeling relieved.
8. When you cannot focus on work because the colleague sitting next to you talks really loudly, tell her politely to talk softly.
Tell them that you are getting distracted and they’ll definitely understand.
9. In a meeting, don’t shy away from giving constructive feedback. Your seniors and teammates will know that you mean well.
There’s a difference between feedback and criticism. There’s nothing wrong with giving constructive ideas that will help improving the product you are working for. Seniors will know you are working towards the common goal. Moreover, it will help your managers understand that you are taking interest in the company’s problems and think about the plausible solutions.
10. When a dear friend is embracing negativity, telling her to relax will help the both of you. She’ll know you are a better friend than she thinks.
She’s feeling demotivated and is cribbing all the time. She trusts you so she’s sharing her thoughts with you without realising that it’s getting on your nerves. But if you don’t tell her she’ll never know. People can’t read minds, can they? Tell her and she’ll take a step back. This will probably help her too.
11. In a relationship, clearly talking about your likes and dislikes will leave no room for assumptions.
Problems will be solved in nano seconds. When you are in a relationship, the aim is to make things better. But if you keep things to yourself, things will only get worse. So it’s a good idea to get talking!
12. In a disagreement, whether with friends or colleagues, everybody knows what you’re thinking. So no one can backbite.
13. In an appraisal meeting, speaking your mind will remind them of the hard work you’ve put in.
But remember what Krishna said, ‘You have the right to work, not fruit’ But give it a shot? It’ll probably help!
via – indiatimes